On being seen
Last night, for the first time, I received a flower from a living statue. She was dressed completely in white from the tips of her heels to the paint on her face. In her book "The Art of Asking", Amanda Palmer talks about her time working as a living statue. Passers by would drop a coin or note into her hat and receive a flower in return, a gift Palmer would give while maintaining eye contact with the recipient. In her book, she describes this powerful visual connection. Each time she gave a flower, she was also speaking with her eyes and saying: I see you. Some people looked like they hadn't been seen in years. The need to feel seen is something Amanda relates to directly. Something all artists can sympathise with - the desire to be seen as real, despite how much success they've had professionally. But it isn't just creative types who have this need - it's inherent in all humans. Not having much experience with living statues, I wasn't sure if mine would give me a flower. I wandered up to her and dropped a 20c coin in her tin can, then took a few steps back and looked up. From the small bouquet in her hands, she pulled out a daisy and leaned down towards me, keeping her eyes on mine while I smiled and thanked her. I felt seen the entire time. I can't help but wonder if she's read The Art of Asking.
A Handy Tip for the Easily Distracted by Miranda July
1. Collect the distracting items. 2. Trap them. 3. Choose a precious thing. 4. Put your hostage in danger. 5. You are free. Filmmaking is just one of Miranda July’s many talents, and in “A Handy Tip for the Easily Distracted” she shows you how to use your distractions to tackle procrastination. This scene is an offcut from July’s film The Future, a story about an LA couple who reassess their lives due to the impending adoption of a cat, Paw-Paw. Watch the clip here:
Love in a comment
I'm currently in the process of reading "The Art of Asking" by Amanda Palmer. More than anything else, this book has made me realise how much I enjoy connecting with people over my writing. Granted, it hasn't happened a whole lot, as I haven't actually shared that much of my writing on the internet. But recently I've been thinking about a blogger known as "Paz". She liked my poetry on my old blog enough to nominate me for "The One Lovely Blog" award and I've never forgotten how, when I followed the link back to her page, she said my poem "Transparent Armour" helped her out when she was over-thinking and having a tough time with her borderline personality disorder. I wanted to share her comment below. It means so much to me, that I was able to help her, even in a small, tiny way.